I work with couples who are ready to face what’s real.

You’re tired of the same arguments that start over nothing and somehow end with both of you feeling more alone. Maybe you still care about each other, or at least you want to, but the connection feels thinner every day. The resentment is quiet but constant. One of you is walking on eggshells while the other has checked out. You’re either fighting or performing and neither feels like the relationship you actually want.

This is accountability-centered couples therapy. If both of you are willing to get honest, take real ownership of your part, and do the work outside the room, we can rebuild something stronger: genuine respect, safety to be fully yourselves, and the kind of intimacy that doesn’t require constant performance or people pleasing.

This work is direct. It’s not gentle in the way that avoids hard truths. But if you’re both serious about facing what’s actually happening instead of managing symptoms, it can change everything.

The Process

Before we begin, you’ll complete a thorough intake process which includes assessments covering your relationship history, attachment styles, personality traits, and core values. You’ll also receive targeted homework between sessions, designed to push growth where it’s needed most.

Sessions are active and alive. We look at what’s actually happening underneath the surface; the sabotage each of you brings into the room, the old wounds that get triggered in the bed or over the dishes, the ways you abandon yourselves or each other to keep the peace or win the fight. We slow down enough to see what’s underneath the words. Between sessions, you’ll turn insight into action.

For couples who want to accelerate healing I offer focused Couples Counseling Intensives in 2-hour and 3-hour blocks. These give us uninterrupted time to engage in the real work efficiently rather than stretching it out over many months

Who I Work With

🔥 Couples who are in high-stress lives
🔥 Long-term partners trying to break a pattern that’s been killing the connection
🔥 Two people who still love each other but feel like they’re becoming strangers

Who I Don’t Work With

❌ One person dragging the other to therapy
❌ People who just want to vent about their partner without self-reflection
❌ People who think they’re always right
❌ People who avoid accountability, honesty, clarity and call it “kindness”

Rules and Expectations

  • No ongoing commitment required, you book one session at a time

  • All sessions are 60 minutes unless otherwise arranged or scheduled as a couples intensive

  • You must both be ready to take ownership of your actions, reactions, and the effect you have on each other

  • This work requires a foundation of physical and emotional safety. I do not work with couples experiencing active emotional or physical abuse.

  • Homework is required so that you can turn theory into action

  • Payment is $250 an hour for standard 60-minute sessions. Intensives are priced at $225 an hour ($450 for 2 hours, $500 for 3 hours). I don’t accept insurance for couples therapy because the work is too deep, too personalized, and too outside the box to be constrained by insurance company limitations.

What Makes This Work Different

Most couples therapy focuses on communication skills, managing conflict, or helping you understand each other better. This work goes deeper and requires more from both of you. It’s built on three things most approaches treat as optional:

  • Mutual accountability as the foundation, not an afterthought. We don’t just explore feelings or assign blame. We look at what each of you is actually doing (and not doing) that keeps the cycles of conflict alive. We expect both partners to own their part.

  • Required action between sessions. Insight without follow-through changes nothing. You’ll get targeted homework designed to turn what we uncover in the room into real shifts in how you show up for each other.

This isn’t about learning to “fight better” or keeping the peace. It’s about building the honesty, ownership, and emotional safety required for a relationship where both of you can actually be fully yourselves.

If you’re both ready to take ownership and do the real work, book your first session here.

  • ADDENDUM TO INFORMED CONSENT
    FOR COUPLES / RELATIONSHIP THERAPY

    This Addendum supplements, and does not replace, the General Informed Consent for Therapy Services. By signing below, both partners confirm that they have read, understood, and agree to the terms of both the General Informed Consent and this Couples Addendum.

    1. The Identified Client
    In couples therapy, the identified clients are both members of the relationship and the relationship itself (the couple as a unit). My primary allegiance is to the health, safety, and functioning of the relationship while also supporting each partner’s individual well-being.

    2. Participation and Engagement Expectations
    Both partners are required to attend sessions together. This work requires the active participation of both people. If one partner does not attend, the session cannot proceed and the full session fee will be charged.

    Both partners are expected to engage in honest self-reflection, take ownership of their contributions to relational patterns, and complete between-session homework. Homework is a required part of this process. If homework is not completed prior to the session, we will use the session time to complete it together or the session may be rescheduled at my discretion. Repeated failure to attend together or complete homework may result in termination of couples therapy.

    3. Confidentiality and Transparency Policy
    Because the couple is the client, I generally operate with a transparency policy. Information shared by one partner (in joint sessions or through any individual communication) may be brought into the joint work if I determine it is relevant to the couple’s goals, safety, or progress. I will not knowingly keep significant secrets that undermine the therapy or the rebuilding of trust and respect in the relationship.

    • You should expect that if you share something significant with me as an individual, it will likely be addressed in joint session.

    • Standard legal and ethical limits to confidentiality still apply (imminent harm to self or others, suspected child or elder abuse or neglect, court order or subpoena, etc.). In those situations, I may need to act without obtaining consent from both partners.

    If you have concerns about this policy or would prefer a different arrangement, please discuss it with me before we begin so we can reach a clear agreement.

    4. No Individual Sessions for Couples Clients
    I do not see couples clients for individual sessions. If individual work becomes clinically indicated for either partner, I will discuss this with both of you and provide appropriate referrals. I do not provide ongoing individual therapy to members of couples I am (or have been) treating in couples therapy.

    5. Risks Specific to Couples Therapy

    • A temporary increase in conflict, arguments, or emotional distress as patterns are examined and challenged.

    • One or both partners may feel exposed, blamed, or uncomfortable at times.

    • Therapy may clarify incompatibilities or lead to decisions to pursue separation or divorce.

    • If active emotional, physical, or coercive abuse emerges (or was not previously disclosed), couples therapy may be inappropriate or unsafe. In such cases, we may pause treatment, create safety plans, make mandated reports if required, or refer to individual or specialized services.

    6. Potential Benefits

    • Improved communication and understanding of triggers, patterns, and underlying dynamics.

    • Rebuilding of respect, emotional safety, and intimacy.

    • Greater clarity, ownership, and personal accountability.

    • Reduced resentment and emotional distance.

    7. Fees, Cancellation, and Payment
    The fee for a 50–60 minute couples therapy session is $250. If one partner cancels with less than 48 hours’ notice or no-shows, the couple is generally responsible for the full session fee (with emergency exceptions as outlined in the General Informed Consent). Both partners are jointly responsible for payment.

    8. Records and Release of Information
    Clinical records pertain to the couple. Access to or release of records generally requires written authorization from both partners (except in cases of imminent danger, mandated reporting, or court order). Each partner has the right to request access to the records; however, joint review with me is often most helpful and clinically appropriate.

    9. Termination and Withdrawal
    Either partner may end participation at any time. If one partner withdraws from couples therapy, I will terminate the couples work and offer referrals. I do not continue seeing the remaining partner for individual therapy.

    10. Appropriateness and Screening
    This approach works best when both partners are ready and willing to take accountability and face difficult truths together. It is not a good fit if one person is being pressured or coerced into therapy, if there is active abuse, or if there is unwillingness to self-reflect and engage honestly in the process.